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In my previous post, I did a brief introduction about pain and how a lot of us detest the sound of it even though it is totally unavoidable.
We experience different kinds of pain ,be it physical or psychological which all result in unpleasant and distressing feelings as the case may be.
In the next few days, we will be dealing with the types of pain that plague us daily and how we can overcome them in order to live more productive lives. Your comments and feedback will be appreciated.
The first kind of pain we will be dealing with is the pain associated with LOW SELF ESTEEM(LSE).
THE PAIN OF LIVING WITH LOW SELF ESTEEM(LSE)
Low self esteem is characterized by lack of confidence and feeling badly about oneself. People with LSE often feel they are not enough , unlovable, incompetent etc. They don’t or hardly ever believe in their qualities and abilities. People with low self esteem often ask questions like “Am I pretty?” “Am I handsome?” “Can I achieve this or that?” “Am I worthy?’. Sometimes they make comments like “I wish I was as smart as her”.
For those dealing with LSE, believing and accepting compliments is a huge issue. They don’t trust that they can look or be good. LSE doesn’t exist only among normal/regular people. Celebrities, wealthy people, leaders and highly placed individuals in the society deal with LSE. It’s hard to believe that some of our screen gods and goddesses are battling with LSE despite the fact that they have a huge fan base that literally adore them.
Wealth, fame, good looks, position, achievement, success, family pedigree, etc. cannot guarantee a healthy self esteem. Its never Ok till someone else says so for those living with low self esteem. They basically seek approval and validation from others all the time. They are always conscious of how others are judging their appearance and sometimes find it hard to compliment others because they don’t feel good about themselves which makes them sad, so why make someone else feel good?